Tuesday, November 30, 2010
Don't let them tell you they are busy!
Old man, waiting for his wife to finish her shopping.
She is busy, purchasing something she doesn't need.
He's busy, worrying about his lunch, the bite on the budget this excursion will take.
Old people are mostly bored, in pain, or lonely. What this man needs is to play with his grandchildren, but they are not around.
What his wife needs is to be in charge of something important.
O.k. I'm simplifying, but the crux of the matter is still here: old people are not utilized well. They end up flitting here and there in search of something that gives meaning and purpose to their days. Even if they can't move, they want to move, they want to feel that their days are full of activities that change lives, save the world.
We tend to relegate them to a semi-dead state, a waiting in limbo state, until maladies take over and their lives have reached the point of no return.
Grandparents used to live around their children and grandchildren, were consulted on all major decisions, supported the family by babysitting, educating, cooking and maintaining the household. They were an integral part of an extended family.
Boredom and loneliness did not contribute to their demise.
How is it in your family?