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Thursday, July 21, 2011

Some losses...

This is my youngest son Brian, and his beautiful fiancee Janet, during the weekend of July 4th. This is the last picture I took of him. We talked about wedding plans at the lake.

He passed away last Sunday.

We are all in shock. Nothing in the world prepares for this.
Some losses are too great to bear.
All who loved him and knew him will miss him so.



89 comments:

Natalie said...

Rosaria, all words seem so trite. I care, I am so saddened to learn of Brian's passing, I will send love and healing. I will say a prayer. ♥

erin said...

(((rosaria))))

xo
erin

Tiffany Norris said...

I am so very sorry for your loss and will be praying for your family.

Johanna said...

Hugs

Bee Lady said...

Found your blog through janis. Sooo soo sorry for your loss. My sympathy to you and Janet and your famiy and friends.

Cindy Bee

Roberta said...

Oh my God Rosaria. I am so, so, very sorry. I have no words. Such pain.

Lizzy Frizzfrock said...

Rosaria, I am so sorry & deeply saddened at your family's loss. Please know that I am thinking of you. This is so shocking. Love to you, Cheryl

Wander to the Wayside said...

Oh my gosh! So so sorry, can't even imagine the pain and shock of losing a child. Thinking of you and hoping you find some comfort and strength from family and friends.

Rob-bear said...

Oh, Rosaria! What a shock!
I am so sorry to learn of this.
Blessings and Bear hugs are all I can offer in this truly sad and difficult time.

Elisabeth said...

Dear Rosaria. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your son. It is too horrible for words. My thoughts are with you.

Creative Design said...

This is terrible! I am so very sorry for your loss.

Sheila

becky said...

Oh, Rosaria...I can't imagine...words fail...shocking news. Thoughts and prayers fly out from here to you and yours.

janis said...

Rosaria~
I hope you do not mind that I posted about you on my blog. I feel that the more prayers and love sent your way, the better. Of course, if you prefer me to remove the post, just let me know & I will.
I am so saddened to hear of this tragedy. Brian was so young and seemed such a wonderful person from the tribute video. How could he not be with you as a Mom.
Life is so incredibly precious. You with you wonderful blog & ability to share such wisdom has been so helpful to me. You have encouraged me in times of need, and even though we have never meet face to face, I feel so Blessed to have known you, even through internet.
I wish I could somehow give you comfort. I wish I could make it better.
Please know I am praying for you, your husband, Janet, and Brian's siblings, other family & friends.
Love prayers & hugs♥
janis

Brian Miller said...

((rosaria)) i am so sorry...i am at a loss...prayers fr you and your fam...

ellen abbott said...

Oh Rosaria. How terrible for you. I'm so sorry for your loss. Bad enough when it comes after an illness and expected but to lose a loved one so unexpectedly. My heart goes out to you.

Eva Gallant said...

I can't imagine how horrible that must be! I am so sorry. Hugs and love coming your way from Maine.

Bonnie said...

Oh Rosaria - what a tragic loss. I am so deeply sorry. There are no words to assuage your pain, but know I will hold you in my heart at this time.

Three years ago my daughter was diagnosed with cancer and had difficult major surgery. I can recall the desperation, angst, and sadness ... and I did not lose her to death. So that is as close as I can come to imagining a smidgeon of what you must be feeling now.

Take care of yourself.

oceangirl said...

rosaria, i am trying to be strong for you. i'll pray for you.

Raven said...

Oh, Rosaria...

Sending strength your way...

முத்துலெட்சுமி/muthuletchumi said...

:( prayers for you and your family rosaria..

Dedene said...

I'm so sorry for your unjust loss. There are no words that will help. I only hope that with time you'll be able to make sense of his passing.

Dawn said...

I am in tears.
So many hugs and love to you and your family.
Im so sorry for your loss.

Dina said...

What a terrible tragedy.
Dear Rosaria, I pray for you and Janet and your family in this difficult time of mourning and grief. God bless and comfort you, somehow.
Brian--may his memory be a blessing.

Suz said...

Rosaria I add my prayers to the others
I don't know what to say..except that I grieve with you and care so much about you..know that so many hold you up in thought and prayer

Patricia said...

I cannot imagine your loss...your grief...your pain...your shock. This has to be the most difficult thing you have had to face in your life. Be gentle with yourself and do whatever you must to care for yourself. Know we all hold you in a circle of our care.

ChrisB said...

Dear Rosaria

So saddened to hear of your loss. Much love and condolences.....x

Marguerite said...

Rosaria, my heart is breaking as I type this through the tears. My deepest condolences to you and your family. I am praying for God to give you all the strength to get through this tragedy. Love and hugs, Marguerite

alannahxjaide said...

I'm really sorry to hear this :( My thoughts are with you.

Dr. Kathy McCoy said...

Oh, Rosaria! I can't begin to imagine your pain right now. I'm so very sorry. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.

Journeyin' Lady... said...

Although I don't personally know you and never met Brian it hurts my heart to hear that you lost him. My deepest sympathy.

Eddie Bluelights said...

Rosaria, I am deeply shocked and sorry for your loss - I cannot imagine any loss more cruel than this. My deepest condolences. You are deep in my thoughts and prayers.

I had hoped to visit you under happier circumstances but I find this shocking news. Love and hugs ~ Eddie

fernenland said...

Oh Rosaria, I'm so sorry. I've known loss and nothing prepares you for the huge, gaping rent that has suddenly been ripped in the fabric of your life. Something deeply instinctive inside us makes us believe that life will go on for ever, and perhaps there is a deeper truth in this that we do not understand, but to lose a dearly loved one when their life seemed to hold so much more living, can truly seem beyond bearing. Would he want you to be crushed by his passing? No. He would want you to cherish yourself and those others so cruelly torn by this event, to dwell on all the precious things his life brought, not to try to understand why, there is no why at a time like this. But to keep on living, one day at at time, one hour at a time, remembering blessings, attending to what needs to be done, remembering him, honouring him. Remember also that you are not yourself at at time like this. Nor are the people around you, who each have to find their own way to grieve. Take care. http://copingwithgriefloss.blogspot.com/p/being-on-auto-pilot.html
cathie

Miss Kim said...

Having just come to your blog a few weeks ago all I can say is I'm so sorry for your loss and let you know you are being held and hugged from afar.

Lorenzo — Alchemist's Pillow said...

Oh, Rosaria, truly no words can fill this void or stanch the shock and pain. Please know that you and Brian will be in my thoughts and prayers.

dianefaith said...

I am so sorry and will be thinking about you and your family. He is so handsome in that picture.

Terra said...

This is an awful shock, and I am praying for comfort for your entire family and for his friends and fiance.

Hilary said...

Oh Rosaria. I am so, so sorry for your unimaginable loss. My heart aches for you, dear lady. Please know that you and yours are in my very best thoughts. Wishing you the strength to cope.

Linda said...

Oh Rosaria. Words may be trite but it is the only way I have of letting you know how much I care. I am so sorry for your tragic loss of Brian. Sending you energy and light and hope.

Maggie May said...

Rosaria...... my heart goes out to you....... it really does. It is a mother's worst nightmare come true.
Wish there was something I could do to take away your pain.
Maggie X

Nuts in May

amalia said...

there are no words
I am affectionately thinking of you
un abbraccio stretto stretto.

cheshire wife said...

I really do not know how you found the strength to post this. The death of a child is the last thing that you expect to happen. I shall be thinking about you.

Kitty said...

I am so sorry for your loss, it is unfathomable at such an age.
You and your family including his fiance will be in our thoughts.

Arkansas Patti said...

I am so very stunned and sorry. You must be in unbearable pain. My prayers are for you, your family and Janet. Hold tight to one another.

yaya said...

Oh Rosaria, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my prayers, please know how much you are loved.

She Writes said...

Ohhhhhhhhh. Ohhhhh. Oh, Rosaria. My heart is aching for you. Oh, I am sorry and it doesn't begin to be enough. You are held in my heart and thoughts.

xxamy

That Janie Girl said...

Rosaria! Oh, my Lord.

My heart is breaking for you, my dear. I loved the tribute video. Words fail me, so I will be holding you from afar.

I will be praying. May God, the Lord of all comfort, wash over you all with peace and love.

xoxoxoxoxo

Max T said...

Dear Rosaria,
I’m so sorry to hear about the sudden death of your son Brian.
May your strength prevail to help you through this difficult time.
Please accept my deepest condolences.
Massimo

potsoc said...

Brian just went to another life and will live as long as you remember him. Nonetheless it is a very difficult passage.
My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Smitty said...

Oh Rosaria. I stopped by to get your wonderful perspective, and found out the news. I don't get to respond often... this I had to respond to.

I know from the experience of a dear aunt of mine, that the loss of a child is inexplicable. It leaves such a mark when a death is completely unexpected like this... in the middle of plans... a life ends...

Please accept my humble sympathy... keep breathing, keep loving, let yourself feel the grief fully and it does pass.... stay connected to friends.... please...

Linda Myers said...

Thinking of you, Rosaria.

Snappy Di said...

I am here through Janie's blog... and offering you my heartfelt sympathy in the loss of your son. Know that I am thinking of you and your family at this time.

(((HUG))))

Diane Cayton-Hakey

Sightings said...

What a shock. Pls. accept condolences and know we are thinking about you and sending our best wishes, our prayers, our support.

#1Nana said...

There are no adequate words. I am so sorry for your loss. It is every parent's greatest fear.

Pickleope said...

Rosaria, your loss is heartbreaking. No can relate to what you're going through because it's unique to you. If you need support, I think you see the community here is there for you.

Hilary said...

You've been on my mind all day. I just want you to know that I'm wishing you strength.

Hugs.

ladyfi said...

I'm so very very sorry to hear this.

Jane said...

I can only imagine the grief you're feeling. Words here won't help, but I'm sure you're strong enough to bear this tragedy in time.

((((Rosaria))))

An Unreachable Dream said...

I know nothing about Brian, but still, is so sad to learn about your loss. He was just too young. It's always painful to separate with those we love. Please be strong to go through with all these.

Lyn said...

Rosaria,
Hugs and love sent across the blogosphere. Words are not enough. So very sad for you and your family. : (

Simon said...

I grieve with you, we grieve with you for a loss so soon. Hugs and peace be with you and family and all your love ones who knows Brian. Keeping you all in my prayers.

Simon

Tracey - Just Another Mommy Blog said...

I am so, so sorry for your loss...

oceangirl said...

how are you today rosaria? there is no comfort but keep the distractions coming and pray to God for acceptance and patience. From Him we come, to Him we shall all return, sooner or later.

NitWit1 said...

So very for your loss. It seems a tragedy when he seemed to have so much joy ahead of him.

And his bride-to-be has to be devastated.

Prayers for all of you

HoneyBUZZin said...

So sorry for your loss...
My thoughts are with you..and in prayers.

marc aurel said...

How terrible. 'Thinking of you in all your agony. I am so sorry.

Cinner said...

I am so very very sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your family.
this is very very sad. sending huge hugs your way.

A Seasonal Cook in Turkey said...

Dear Rosaria,

You got cross recently with all of us out there who don't comment regularly. But you know sometimes it is just not possible. Today I happened to read your post and I really feel so sad for you. As a mother, I share your grief. I send you all my love. Claudia

Karen said...

Rosaria, that is too hard to bear. I'm so sorry is not enough. I can only pray that God will provide you and your family comfort.

(hugs)

Munir said...

So sorry for your loss. You and your loved ones are in our prayers.

Meeling said...

There are no words that are right or enough at a time lie this. My heart goes out to you and all your family that is being touched by this loss.

Nance said...

Oh, honey.

Retired English Teacher said...

Rosaria, I am heartbroken for you to hear this. I understand your shock and disbelief. I lost my 34 year old daughter a year ago on Memorial Day Weekend. I will hold you in my heart and keep you in my prayers during this time.

Pseudo said...

I am so so sorry for your loss Rosario. My heart and prayers are with you and your family.

Linds said...

Rosaria - I have just seen this and I am so so sorry to be so late in extending my deepest sympathy. Loss of a loved one is unbearable - I know this. But the loss of a child..... All I will say is that I am thinking of you and your family, and that you are all in my prayers.

Welshcakes Limoncello said...

Oh, Rosaria. I am so very sorry. All my love. xx

Robyn said...

Dear beautiful much loved Rosaria...
I can not begin to imagine your suffering at the loss of your youngest son Brian.... no parent wishes for this.
I have been away from blogging for sometime and was compelled to read some of your news today.
I am so very sorry for your loss.

I know that words will not take your pain away and only time will heal the wound to a bearable state.
Take care
Big love to you and your family
Robyn xo

LindyLouMac in Italy said...

Rosaria for some reason I have only just caught up with your devastating news. My heart goes out to you and your family and of course Brian's fiancée. What a tragedy. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Dimple said...

I am sorry Rosaria. I pray God will comfort you all.

Nia said...

No words can help, except to know that people do care. I'm so very sorry. xxx

debsdigest.com said...

I can't believe what I've just read - what a handsome young man. None of us knows what lies ahead. The memorial garden is a wonderful idea.
I'll be saying a prayer x

Vagabonde said...

Rosaria I just read the tragic news. I am so very sorry, so very sorry. My heart is breaking for you.

A Cuban In London said...

It was Ocean Girl who told me this morning. I'm sorry for not coming sooner. I have no words with which to express my sorrow. My thoughts are with you and your family. I'm sorry, ever so sorry.

Eleonora said...

Rosaria,
I can't find the words to express all my love and sadness for your loss. I have been away and not visiting here for a while so my condolences are late.

I'm shocked... I can't say anything to console you.

Ciao amica cara, sii forte.

Barbara Boomer Buddhist Blog said...

Rosario, I am truly sorry. May strength be your best friend and know that so many care about you.

Ann Best said...

I am SO SO sorry for this loss. Some things ARE almost too difficult to bear. I can sense your pain in your words. My prayers are with you and your family--all of you. I'm wrapping my arms around you.

♥ Braja said...

omg Rosaria....what happened?? I'm SO sorry....nothing can be said....prayers for Brian from this side, my dear friend....

Abby said...

I came to your blog today to catch up on a few missed posts and was so sad to read this.

I've decided that losing a child is probably the worst thing a person can experience. It's supposed to work the other way around. Children are supposed to lose parents in the usual cycle of life.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Much love and many prayers to you, Rosaria. The memorial garden is inspiring and I'm glad that Brian's little cat is with you now. Hopefully he will bring you some comfort.

Lydia said...

I have read to this place, this post where you announced your son's passing. Am feeling very still inside after this journey in your blog...thinking about the garden, I guess, where there is peace that passes all understanding...
xo

Michael G-G said...

My heart goes out to you and your family, Rosaria. Some losses are too great to bear.